It still a difficult process for me continue my plans and healthy habits that I have started forcedly in a process of becoming a focus and career driven person. The idea of regaining my motivation is difficult as it seems. As everybody knows, success starts from the purpose of a person, reasons and his motives. The unwritten mission and heavy reason why does he plan to do such thing. You are doing things not because it is something that is unnecessary or unworthy, everything has a backstory and reason why it was build or why it was destroyed. Motivation, in addition, is the process that makes a person driven in accomplishing his goals or plans. It affects human’s behavior in reaching, or not, his goal. From my side, I’m still in a process of regaining my motivation in life. Still in phase of making my path straight and ready for the hazy route that this journey might give me.
Adulting is difficult because still, this is a coping process for me. I graduated from college from a couple of years ago… but still hustling to adapt the changes that this real world is throwing me. My motivation today evolved from my unrealistic goal before. “Nothing is impossible” as they say, but to build your success with your vague motivation is ridiculously impossible.
Developing a clear focused mindset is difficult to attain. The habit of making everything in order and staying calm under unexpected conundrum is tough. Some people succeed in surpassing this stage but most of those who tried, stopped and didn’t pursue the process even though they are fully motivated at the beginning of the progress, they ended up unsuccessful and miserable. Building a strong motivation could be applied to everything. It could be in making your online business works, saving a fund for your travel goal, your professional growth etc.
Everything that we aim and want to happen in our future gain, motivation is the key in making the idea of success, reached. The strong foundation of reasons of making such thing is what we need in making our route clear and strong in any disturbance. The idea of making yourself focus is the best thing you could do in making your journey straight and got an enjoyable process.
Inline from the given information above, here are the simple ways in making yourself focused in reaching and attaining your goal in life:
This process is not as simple as tidying up your closet or kitchen; throwing away things that aren’t keep-worthy as it was before. This simple process of organizing has a great impact and meaning to someone’s well-being. Your control for simple things manifests to the complex aspect of your life.
The simple organization of your desk helps you to have a clear and focus mind in accomplishing the task you have sat that specific day. Everything start in simple and goes to complex. The removal of unnecessary items from your box makes not just the scenery pleasant but your feelings lighter. It is necessary for you to make this as a practice in eliminating useless things to prioritize the important details in making decision. Clear mind makes wise decision, do not let the opposite state put you in a position where regret is only the option.
Here are the things that you have to remember in decluttering your home/workspace:
1. Your goal must be clear in this process. Questions like, “why do I need to declutter? how does decluttering things help me? how will I declutter?” are the questions that must be answered in starting the process. In addition, you must understand that decluttering is not a one-day process. The progress and development of the habit is long and you must understand that you don’t have to push the moment to organized everything. You might start with your desk today, whole room tomorrow and the kitchen next week. Rushing things without a proper plan might make you indecisive in every of your decision.
2. Get rid the unnecessary. It’s hard to let go with things that are sentimental but the idea of letting the unnecessary things go help you to move on get a brighter life. This is very applicable not just for general but also to the things that we kept from the past that don’t have essential in our present growth. Taking pictures of the tangible things and putting them to the cloud makes the space light and gives you room to breathe in.
3. Create a sorting system. This is one of the famous organization hacks that most of everyone does. The idea of sorting things from what to keep, donated, sell and get rid of helps you to shape your wise decision making. By having some sorted boxes, you could be able to see what to keep and what not.
For the past couple of months, I’ve been craving for motivation and drive in making myself fulfilled and contented, I formed a question for myself and this is “HOW DO I IMPROVE MYSELF THIS 2020?” By that, listening to podcast, watching videos and reading articles about self-improvement became the solution for me in learning things about self-improvement. I’m new to this journey in developing the habit but it so nice to feel the idea of trying and making baby steps in improving the quality of life that I have.
The opportunity to better one’s self is not reached by everyone. Half of everyone is aware for their improvement but fail to realize the opportunity that this growth could give. Improvement is equal to opportunity, once you invest for your development; return will be seen at the end of the process. Of course! It is hard to start, but as what successful people say “The first step in making success is to start.” Whether you’re young or adult; student or someone who works in a corporate world, starting is the first step in getting your success.
The world is not going to adjust for your improvement. You! The person living in your body is the one who’ll adjust from this constant change. Letting yourself stuck in a position where contentment is saturated will never be the world’s problem, fact! it is your problem. No one is accountable in accumulating your failure but yourself. Letting yourself grow is your choice, allowing your body died unhappy isn’t the problem of anyone. IT IS YOUR BUSINESS.
Therefore, here are the ways in attaining the change and improvement that you need in improving yourself:
Everything that you do, words that you said and decisions that have been made are under your responsibility. The happiness that you are getting is the result of your brave (or maybe not) decision. No one is accountable for what is happening to your life but you. The owner of your body. Let’s block the idea of passing the blame to others, this is not a game nor a play. Being accountable for yourself is being accountable for your success.
Start to enjoy and embrace the change, this is constant and inevitable. People are afraid in changes reason for them to choose to be safe and push their responsibilities away. The moment you accept and hold your responsibility, you will feel fulfilled and satisfied. This idea of being accountable is giving you rights to enjoy and celebrate the success that you’re getting. On the other hand, when the result is negative, your accountability makes you confident and gives you an opportunity to grow and solve the problem with self-assurance and wise decision made by your personal choice.
Some of you might have a low courage in making something that could improve your productivity. I also know that confidence is not as easy as some people say. Personally, back then, my confidence level is as low as you never thought. From physical to my skills, the confidence for myself isn’t that sturdy as it could be. But you know, as you gain experience and wisdom in life, confidence increased little by little. To recover from the bottom and see the improvement is a big step in attaining the goal that you’ve written.
Being confident is something that will drive you with your goals and aspirations. It is the formation of the growing mindset and habit. The stream of consciousness must be on track. You are not going to be confident if you are not going to synchronize your words with your actions. You must know when to be prepared and ready with the battle of life. Showing your genuine intention is a big embraced for your confidence. Some might not like what you’re showing but the things is… at least you are true and you’ve got your good intention with you. Don’t be just a people pleaser, be someone that considered as genuine. A genuine person with pure intention.
Moreover, being ready for reality of learning. Mostly, people are far from developing a good habit because first, they are afraid of changes and second, their pride is high as f*ck. The latter doesn’t have a positive side. Most of people under that reasons are close minded and aren’t ready to learned from someone (cue for the next bullet). What I just want to say is, you have to be open with learnings. Life is full of surprises, surprises that will make you intelligent and experienced. Remember that, your openness and humbleness will give you wisdom that will step up your confidence level.
LEARN FROM PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE
In this present generation, everything is free. You don’t have to experience failure to learn. Knowledge is free, same with wisdom and guidance. For total learning, on hand failure might be interesting but haven’t you seen that these experiences that have been faced by many people might teach you lessons. This is not a shortcut but an intelligent analysis of someone’s struggle and success. It’s up to you if you are going to adapt their ways in surviving or just going to let the information forgotten by your confused memory.
Of course, it is hard to remember everything and remind yourself every day that “I should do this” based on the reversed engineered success of this specific person. That’s why writing down to your journal is really important, owning something that could record your emotions and plans could be a great help for your habit formation. From the habit of the successful people in different industry (from what I have learned), they have this similar habit that makes their day productive. Most of them write from their journal, from jotting down their daily affirmations to plans that they have the day after that night, everything was written down. The importance of writing things helps you retain the information to a piece of paper. Paper that you could check after a couple of days if you feel unmotivated and stubborn.
The term “reverse engineering” is applicable in this notion. The fact that you could study someone’s success is amazingly brilliant because first you don’t have to experience great loss in reaching certain goal and second, your decision lies on your intelligent analysis to the success or maybe dilemma that this successful person had.
CHASE YOUR DREAMS AND ASPIRATION
“I earn enough, I can support my family, I can eat somewhere with my family and friends, I can buy what I want.” Real happiness is not just about earning enough money and supporting yourself and family with gifts and material things. Happiness is always sitting at the back of contentment. Whether you’re earning six digits or five, if you’re not contented; your money is useless, it is impossible to feed your happiness. It might suffice your desires but the span of that burst emotion is short as your faux smile.
Chasing your dream doesn’t mean leaving your day job. If your day job makes you feel incomplete or empty in some ways, you have to remember that you still have hours after your job to do things that you’re passionate about. It’s a matter of time management, some of you might find it difficult because your day job consumed your energy but what I have realized is, after working for 8 hours a day, I still have time to do somethings instead of making myself drown in social media and tv series. It is on you on how you manage your time. If your passion is writing, go write 1 hour a day; if designing, draw and share it to the world. Again, let’s stop putting the blame on others, be accountable on your emotions and wise or unwise decision.
If you did good today, be the best tomorrow. Not to pressure yourself but to maximize your potential. People tend to give their bare minimum because first, they hate what they’re doing and second they’re blind to see the importance of what they are doing. The idea of defeating yourself is similar to the idea of giving your best. The reflection of your work is reflected on you. The moment you look at the mirror; you see the person you have built. Others are part of what you became but the most percentage of your totality came from your decisions and personal choices you have thought about.
Learning from yesterday is a great step to better yourself. If you can upgrade your smartphone or your smart television, why not yourself? This is very attainable, to get the better version of yourself. The fact that you’re conscious that you did wrong, do right next time: the fact that you could self-assess, you could improve yourself. It is a matter of bravery and confidence to start today and ditch procrastination. Again, we are responsible with our actions. We succeed because you did great, you fail because you failed to prepare.
Living with your full potential is different in raging yourself with love and happiness. Not everyone is convinced that they are unhappy and frustrated with the environment that there are end up into from long years of their life.
Not everyone is given a chance to live with their dreams after their college’s paper works; not everyone is contented with their hard works’ fruit and incentive. Not everyone is grateful for the position that they are consistently building and protecting. And the sad reality is, they are accepting these things including the idea that they are making their lives in the middle of invested apologetic life, in the setting of inevitable boring routines made of blunt thought and paper people. Saying that everything was done according to plan; everything was made according to their destiny but the gray part of this is everything was according to their choices… based from the law of their own universe.
Happiness is always a choice but what if the problem is not from you but from your options. It is easy to say that “hey, just broaden your choices and that will be easy.” but real sense, if this world presented you with horrible choices, even though they are awful, you have no choice but to make a great pick. Same with the professions that people are taking, not everyone has privilege to follow the sparks, most of everyone needed to be practical to suit with the standard of living. And this is the main reason why at their early age of adulthood, people tend to kill their desire – living with their passion. Which is very practical, it’s like getting an easy or uneasy job for easy money.
Striving young adults tend to pressure themselves unconsciously, make them think that life is short to be patient and persistent. Today, pessimism is ranging for the reason that we are trapped in the midst of wanderlust and fake fur. Posting online to validate one’s happiness, to show to people that they are enjoying their cold coffee and happy with their smiles. The need for self-recognition and unique identity copied from others – contradiction – is relevant.
The number of people who surpassed the period of choosing whether they go to what they love or to what they need to do are few. And take note that this few could be divided in half or third because in general, tracking your way is not just a key in finding your final end. Being passionate and focused are not present in everyone’s mantra, changing the past is their reflection every time they wide open their eyes.
The overflowing frustration might not be seen outside but from their mouth after they aged, regrets shout from their soft murmur. They are stuck with what-ifs and doubts; they want to go back however their chained. Money is not always the answer for everything; it doesn’t kill frustrations and stop the clicking of the clock. Genuine happiness is like a seeing your long lost friend from high school; it is like tapping your sleepy passion to make it awake.
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